It’s funny how life can sometimes be quite persistent in sending you certain lessons. This morning, I found the above quote on Facebook. Later on, when I opened my 365 days of inspiration book to see what today’s quote was, I found this:

I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed. – Booker T. Washington.

What I take from these two messages is that if you want to welcome success in your life, you also have to welcome failure. Sometimes, people are so afraid to fail that they would rather not even try. You might think that you don’t do this but that’s because we don’t always realize when we are making a decision based on fear of failure.

For a long time, I wanted to launch a blog but didn’t do it because I feared it wouldn’t be good enough, cool enough, smart enough, pretty enough, interesting enough and so on and so forth. I thought, What if I put myself out there and it’s a big fat failure?

It took me years to finally look that fear in the eye and just do it. I felt that if I didn’t try, that would be the real failure. Perfectionists especially will understand where I am coming from when I talk about this. It’s like we have to be good at things right off the bat or we’re not happy. But that’s a little bit egotistical isn’t it? I was like this even as a kid. My cousins would attempt water skiing for the first time and fall over and over again but they got right back up and tried again. I attempted it once and when I couldn’t even get up on my skis, I gave up.

In the past few years, I have had people in my life that have taught me it’s okay to fail (fall). My boyfriend is one of these people. I have watched him learn a new sport like windsurfing and see him fall over and over again but without even a flinch of wanting to give up. He says he enjoys the process of learning to do something that is challenging. It makes it that much more rewarding when he finally succeeds. Entrepreneurs like Richard Branson and Arianna Huffington also believe that failure is part of the path to success. In fact, almost every hugely successful person we know has had their share of major fumbles along the way.

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Do you have something you’ve been wanting to try but have held back because you are afraid you might not be good enough (cooking, photography, running, learning Spanish)? Why not give it a go and see what happens? If you aren’t the rock star at it you hoped you would be, you will still find great satisfaction in knowing that you tried. To me, in the game of life, going after what you want and dusting yourself off and getting back up when you fall is the true definition of success: Me 1- Fear 0

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