Have you ever stopped to count how many decisions you make within a 24-hour timeframe? Or if you consciously decided to change your thoughts how it could affect the outcome of your life? The average human makes about 612 decisions a day. This equals to 4,900 decisions in a week and 254,800 in a year. That’s a lot of thinking and decision making. Some of these decisions are small like what to eat for breakfast and some are bigger like Should I quit my job, marry him, move elsewhere in the world? Most of us are aware when we are making the big decisions but it’s the little ones that can pass right our noses without us even realizing we are making them. Sometimes, the accumulation of these little decisions can add up to something big. I included deciding what to eat for breakfast in the examples of small decisions but if each morning, for the next 10 years of your life, you decide to eat Pop Tarts and bacon, there will probably be an important repercussion on your health eventually. The reason I chose to talk about decisions in this post is because today’s 365 days of inspiration message is about choices:
In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.-Eleanor Roosevelt
When I read this, the first thing that came to mind is that we shape our lives not only by the choices in what we do but more importantly, by the choices of the quality of our thoughts. That’s right, you have a choice in what goes on in that noggin of yours. Most of us feel like thinking “happens to us” but that isn’t entirely true. Yes, part of what we think is programmed by our upbringing, society, past experiences and a whole lot of other factors but what we don’t realize is that we can we can rewire ourselves to change that mental dialog. The first step to choosing your thoughts is to observe them. Throughout the day, notice the internal chatter that goes on in your mind. Do you think thoughts like:
– I should really sign up for the gym. Man I’ve been lazy lately.
– I wonder if I will get that promotion I’ve been waiting for?
– Why didn’t she reply to my email? Aren’t I an important friend to her?
– I can’t believe I didn’t have the nerve to speak up in that meeting. Why am I such a wuss?
Notice a common thread here? These are mostly worry-based, negative thoughts, which end up shaping how you perceive yourself, behave towards others and generally go about living your daily life. You might feel that the above examples don’t really apply to you, that you are generally a positive person. If that’s the case, then great. I find that the women of my generation are extremely hard on themselves and that we have the habit of thinking that whatever we are doing isn’t good enough, that we should always be doing more. This can leave us feeling pretty crappy (pardon my French) and I would like us to change that.
Your homework for this week is going to be to notice certain recurring thoughts you have about yourself. This can be what you accomplished today, what you think you are capable of, etc. That’s step 1.
Step 2 will be to analyze how those thoughts are affecting the life you have created for yourself. Until next time, I invite you to watch the video below. Dr. Wayne Dyer has been a huge influence in my life. I have read two of his books (Change your life- Change your thoughts and Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting) and watched countless of his online seminars. This man truly has a gift to share and I promise you will love what you hear.