I love that inspiration for my blog posts often comes from the fabulous people in my life. In this case, it stems from a discussion I had yesterday with my business partner Jennifer. We were chatting over lunch and all of a sudden it dawned on me how many amazing women doubt themselves, criticize themselves, make themselves small to please others and basically dance around the perimeter of the person they are here to be. Do you realize that you are very powerful?

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I am sometimes guilty of doubting what I am capable of or being harsh with myself. It’s sad to say that this seems to be a behaviour that plagues women more than men. I don’t want to start a feminist debate but I do feel that we, the female gender often underestimate our value, capabilities and the power we truly hold within us.

We apologize before speaking up during a meeting or start a sentence with “This is probably going to sound silly but…“. It’s like we are afraid that if we come from a place of confidence, we might upset or threaten people. I wonder if this is a generation thing. For many women, our parents taught us to be nice, polite little girls and to do what we were told or else… And from there the disease to please was born.

You might be asking yourself why this even matters and maybe you don’t really relate to what I am describing above. If so, that’s amazing. But, for many of us, this internal dialog can keep us from coming into our full potential and that is why I think it’s so important to take stock of what’s going on inside our head and our heart. Just this past week, I witnessed a young lady that realized she didn’t suck at public speaking and when she got a glimpse at what she was capable of, she teared up and saw the infinite possibilities in front of her.

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To me, that is a miracle. Not in the religious sense. As I learned from one of my favourite spiritual teachers Gabrielle Bernstein, a miracle is simply a shift in perception. When you start to see that you are not your limitations, it changes everything. This probably won’t happen overnight but the transition lies in the little victories. It can be taking a course that was terrifying to you, going on a date after being hurt one too many times or simply speaking up during a meeting. Whatever it is, doing what scares you or what you think you aren’t capable of will show you that those fear based thoughts are exactly just that: thoughts. They aren’t reality.

For me, the small victories were the stepping stones to bigger leaps of faith. Launching my blog was scary as hell because the voice in my head had been saying “Who do you think you are to deserve to have a voice and a platform from which to speak from?” and “There are already many great blogs out there. Why would people visit yours?”.

Thankfully, at the time when I was seriously considering creating this blog but had these thoughts, my mentor Bram Levinson sent me an email with a message that gave me the push I needed to take the plunge. I’ve shared this quote from Martha Graham before because I believe it is not only very powerful but it also conveys what we are truly meant to do during our time here on earth. It allows us to move beyond the ego and into our purpose:

There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep yourself open and aware to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open...

So, what are you doing to keep yourself small, not rock the boat or stay within your comfort zone? We each have a voice and we are lucky enough to live in a country where we can use it. Don’t be afraid to speak up, show your true colours and follow your bliss. There might be some bumps along the way but discovering your potential (your purpose) will make it well worth your while. Until next time my lovelies!

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